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  1. @Viking NYC Thanks man. Great insights. I've definitely noted the same re: social promos. I'll try Bumbe in addition to day game. Here's my profile text. I'd love any guidance. I keep thinking it's too factual and not playful enough... Kind of what I should do with my photos... I totally see what you mean with them being too smiley : "Social cig smoker (w/ no plans to quit) & 420 friendly. ๐Ÿ‡ฎ๐Ÿ‡ณ โžก๏ธ ๐Ÿ‡น๐Ÿ‡ฟ โžก๏ธ ๐Ÿ‡ฉ๐Ÿ‡ช โžก๏ธ ๐Ÿ‡ฌ๐Ÿ‡ง โžก๏ธ ๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ธ Into music & basketball (watching/ playing), audio books/ podcasts, lifting/ hiking/ walking, standup comedy, discussing the universe, politics & philosophy. Love to listen, learn, experience & share. Organic whole food, plant based flexitarian. Live by the golden rule. Sigma male. INTJ."
  2. This is the quote in particular by @maurice_bendrix: "... you must coalesce all the aforementioned skills (awareness, good posture, confidence, some eloquence, sexual magnetism, etc.) into a whole. Perhaps itโ€™s hard work. But itโ€™s meant to be hard work; if it were easy, then everyone would do it. Tinder is easy; hence everyone does it. And the masses, consequently, swallow you up." My takeaway: men think online dating is online shopping. Women think it's window shopping... You gotta be pretty impressive to make her stop and enter the shop. Game has the benefit of showing a women many layers of yourself just with your approach vs just the visual of a static image. I'm finally beginning to realize that the online reactions may not be the same as IRL reactions. Now, I'm kinda curious to find out.... I'll be needing serious bro-help come Monday, if it doesn't go to plan... Just warning ๐Ÿ˜‚
  3. I think this response speaks well to the imbalance by @maurice_bendrix
  4. I smoke cigs socially and after weed. I smoke a fair amount of weed but specific strains for different settings. I drink socially. Once or twice a month I enjoy a shrooms trip but align it to an intent - something I'm trying to solve or experience. I'm focused on wealth and health through a consistent commitment to discipline. Having checked off the wealth box, I'm focused on health: - mental health: relationships (friends, girls, family, work), quality of life (experiences)) - physical health (nutrition, exercise, rest). I try to take one step fwd each day. Buts it's been super hard lately. My expectation is that the effort will covert the tasks to routines to habits to lifestyle to culture over time. This community has been a huge step fwd in helping me feel more confident in achieving those relationship goals.
  5. Agree. I also combine intermittent fasting (16/8) with walking and lifting. I listen to a lot of lectures, motivational speeches and occasionally music on my walks. Love the personal time. On weekends, I get out of the city to the nearby woods. Been slacking big time lately across the board. Anyone on Fitbit?
  6. That's my problem...I'm seen as a nice guy/ great guy ๐Ÿ˜‚ Yeah, I've spent hundreds on all the extras... Thanks for the kind words though.
  7. Hey Sigmas, I understand Tinder is not a great app to meet women... what are your thoughts on using it to determine what kind of women are interested in you? I don't get matches in my age. The few women I've matched with are plus 5-10 yrs older than me. I tend to only swipe on women I find hot but have been wondering for many years, whether I'm shooting out of my league and if that's why I lack confidence with women (I've spent hundreds in all the major dating apps and typically swipe out the city). If I can't get a like on an app, why should I be able to get an IOI from a women IRL? What's wrong with my profile do you think? https://tinder.com/@seattlesigma
  8. I agree @Mr. Frenzy It should be about aspiring to achieve fulfilment.... "The Pursuit of Happiness" However, sadly, for many the path is far tougher. Just as in the story, it requires taking risk, which most people are afraid to. We live in a world of fear mongering with a scarcity mindset. A clear purpose/ intent can overcome that fear. But the world is complex. There are many reasons people don't pursue their passion/ embrace the risk: - They like the perceived, repetitive certainty of blue collar jobs - They lack the educational requirements (avg American reads at an 8th grade level), mostly due to lack in local facilities, education/ internships/ stable community/ etc. - They were raised by paycheck to paycheck parents and have no role models to aspire to, in addition to limited opportunities in their local communities. This is changing with social media. It's easier to learn now than ever, discover what's possible and ask "why not me?" But there has to be a purpose. Regardless, it's tough to break out of your environment. My thoughts on the thread topic: Assuming you had a somewhat stable childhood and a decent education: your career should be helping you develop the skills that will help you achieve your purpose. So, figure out the path (what skills do you want to learn and understand why) and enjoy the journey of discovery and growth, whilst progressing towards your goals. This should ideally start in highschool. Rich Dad. Poor Dad is an easy start. Plenty of YouTube summaries that if appeal to you, I recommend reading the book. Next, I highly recommend 12 Rules for Life and Principles. Each opened my eyes to the growth and abundancy (vs scarcity) mindset. Again, plenty of YouTube summaries to preview appeal.
  9. @YouSmallFishI fully agree. But try not to think of it as a job. Perhaps a career but either way, something that enables your purpose. In my case, my career enables financial security, flexibility and freedom, social connection amongst like minded individuals, whilst developing the skills I use in my personal passion as well. My career is an additive - it helps... It doesn't take time away from what I enjoy doing and therefore want to do most. Spend time thinking purely about what you love doing.
  10. @YouSmallFish one of my favorites: https://youtu.be/u4taz6dfPQc
  11. @YouSmallFish dude... This post hit home so hard! I failed my three most important academic exams. I made my father cry in disappointment. Happy to share more about the journey from the final failure to now. But I want to share this: My second and third failure are the driver for my success - they became my motivation. Just typing this I'm getting me riled up. 16 months after my 3rd fail at 24, I joined the biggest software company (yes that one). 20 yrs later (this past April), I'm still there and now in our Gaming org. I'm not a gamer but working in gaming is hella fun. I don't have a single academic qualification.... Yeah, not one. Oh yeah, I relocated to Corp HQ 5 yrs ago.... As you can see, I'm Indian. Heard about that thing called the backlog? But it took 100 hr wks, driven by the tears of shame and the disappointment in myself.... The vow to myself to never fail again.... Because I was doing what I loved.... Building digital experiences. Clicking publish gives me a rush. Getting an A felt and still feels meaningless. Just means you are good at meeting the standards of the norm. We need people like that too of course. But that's not me. When you know what you really love, do it. You'll figure how to make money with it later. Don't make excuses. You only need 4 hrs of sleep a night for 6 months. What are you doing with the other 20.... Every day? Listen to YouTube/ Spotify motivational speeches. Train your brain. What did I learn: I'm not into academics. I learn so that I can do, not just to know: Knowledge application > knowledge acquisition. Each of the three failures required regurgitating memorized facts - I'm not into that. Only a few courses I felt challenged my interests. Conclusion - stop trying to get paper credentials. My advice: analyze why you are failing? What specific areas are you not passing? Be brutally honest and painstakingly detailed with your assessment. You should find clues... For me it was simply an inability to commit the time and effort, that I do in my work, to compare.. or music or basketball. The outcome (A grade) was just meaningless. What I do know affects millions of gamers. It means something to me. Find your purpose. Your reason to be. I'd love to understand why you need an Msc? Not a job title. What do you want any to do? "I've missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I've been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that's why I succeed." - Michael Jordan
  12. Thanks for the encouragement Val. Completely agree. Going to see a couple of my favourite bands Thurs and Fri (on my own obviously... Something I had to learn to get used to... Dinners, concerts. Never been to a club/ bar on my own... Yet). Anyway, will use the opportunity to approach... Easier given the common interest in the band and live music in general. Wish me luck dudes. Will report back over the weekend.
  13. Thanks! I guess while I figure out what I want from a relationship... I should get to work on learn day game by doing... I'm currently focused on a setting up a biz, while working for a Corp, and creating my bachelor pad that I bought end of last year.)
  14. I've noticed this too. I don't think it's being enamoured with oneself, but rather with one's purpose, that is picked up. But to your point, staying present & aware and not appearing needy of a conversation/ reaction. Makes sense. Intentional, purpose-driven movement. Why rush when you don't need to... and why out yourself in that position to have to rush = poor planning. Great observations!! Thanks... Got some stuff to think about ๐Ÿ‘
  15. Crazy detail for me to digest. Thanks so much man!! I'm loving being part of this group, btw. Can actually have productive, intelligent discussions!
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